In this new and digital age we are able to
[more easier than ever] decide who can
talk to us and when they can talk to us.
Mainly with Facebook and MSN as my
examples. I mean why is it so hard to
just tell people flat out that we don’t
want to talk to them?
Instead, we block them, or put them
on limited profiles, hoping, that they
don’t find out. Hoping that they don’t
go round a friends house and see the
version of MSN/facebook that we don’t
want them to see.
This has happened to a few friends of
mine and I myself have been on the
receiving end. I would be talking to
a friend and I would say:
“How often is she online these days?”
“Like all the time, why?”
“Haha, well she doesn’t show up
“Fuck it, lets get drunk”
[A little sidenote, alcohol solves all of
lifes problems, well mine anyways, I
don’t know how it works for the rest of
This little point recently hit home when I
logged onto MSN a few weeks ago and
there were 7 people online at the time.
Six were blocked and the other I really
wasn’t in the mood to talk to, but hey.
The point that I am trying to make
is although, being able to decide who
can talk to us at given time is no
doubt a great advantage in the short-term
scheme of things.
It does promote cowardice and the
inability to talk straight to people. This
isn’t a declaration about how I’m going
to unblock certain people. Cause in
all honesty I can’t be arsed. =]
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it practically doesn’t work
allowing me to go onto a
website for a short while
then cutting out. Hardly
ever allowing me to on MSN
and the like.
But on the other side of this,
I have actually been able to
get more reading done, whoop!
And also writing in my notepads
I have realised, through slight
revision of past conversations
with a variety of people [whether
over the internet or conversations
face-to-face] that I have a habit
of trying to be there for people.
I mean I’ve always known this
but I never really knew the extent
until I took a few minutes to
reflect on what it is I do as a person
and how I will probably be remembered
by those around me [blog for the future].
Bad thing is though.
And at times I can
This does not discourage me
however from wanting to help
where I feel I can. I find personal
comfort at times in being ‘that
guy’, the ‘shoulder to cry on’
because sitting there and just
listening [I have found] can
work way better than trying to
spew out random advice.
Problem with being ‘that guy’
is that you tend to focus on
keeping everyone else happy.
It’s pretty easy to forget about
Take it from someone who knows.
So if there are any of you
nice guys reading this, this
is my advice:
Take a little time [a few minutes
a day] to reflect on your own life.
Take a risk or two [or three], like
I commented in a previous blog,
they are totally worth it.
Find someone who wants to help
you. Because trust me, you need
help just like everyone else.
That’s all really, but seriously,
take the advice to heart.
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