Tag Archives: fear of consequence

[proximity and passion]

Meeting new people is hard, it seems
to be more and more socially awkward
to go up to someone you see in a bar
or club and go up to them with a first
line [that pretty much defines how they
will always see you] without either your
mates jeering at the back of the pub, or
the music blasting so loud you have to
check if your ears are bleeding [gross
but true if you think about it].

So, lets think, you need somewhere
moderately quiet. A place where there is
absolutely no pressure to make an
amazing first impression. And, if [by
some strange form of bad luck] the
conversation should form that
awkward silence, you need a distraction
good and ready. The simple answer
to this conundrum:

the workplace.

Seriously though, consider it.

Has working with people
become the new way to meet
people.

As the shifts go on you and
the time drags on, you find yourself
learning more and more about the
person that is in front of you. You
find that you share similar interests
and usually you realise that you both
share a disinterest about your job [in
most cases I have found this to be
true, which is a plus, because at a
date the last thing you want to talk
about].

You also realise that you have learned
so much more about this person [their
likes, their dislikes] than you would
have done if it was a date situation. And
like I mentioned earlier there is no
pressure cause your at work.

But does it work? Do these sort of
relationships have a standard shelf
life, or is it shortened because of the
following factors that stand in your
way:

[you see each other ALL the time]

[there are a thousand views on your
relationship from your co-workers]

[you can try and hide the relationship,
but people [somehow] always find out]

My personal opinion on this particular
subject is that yeah, you could meet
the perfect person at work, someone
with whom you can share interests and
nice conversations, but what if your wrong
and the leap that you take isn’t as gracious
as you would have hoped, or, your leap
was gracious but the end of the relationship
isn’t, your gonna have to see that person
all the time. It’s that consequence that
kinda scares me on that one.

BUT

You could always do what me and my
friend did, when she said;

“What happens when we break up”

I replied with;

“We don’t, we’re that awesome”

[basically trying to say that not all
relationships have bad endings]

[one day it will all become awesome]

As people we spend alot of time waiting.
Waiting for that perfect life or romantic
situation to appear. The thing about
waiting is that you hardly find yourself
risking anything.

Most of the good things in life, or the
good things that happen in life or
have happened are the direct result
of taking a chance.

Now, I’m not talking, the rolling of
a dice chance, I’m talking about
taking that chance that scares you.
Usually, the more it scares you
the greater the rewards. And if
you take the time to think about
it, you’ll realise I’m right.

So why are people stuck in a rut?

Why when what I just said is
common knowledge are people
seeming to be taking less and
less chances these days. The
answer for this?

Fear of consequence my dears,
fear of consequence.

It’s a shitty truth, but it is a truth
none the less, and as I sit here
in front of my laptop I wonder why
I myself am in said rut and what
I am gonna do to get out of it.

Fuck all is what I’m gonna do,
at least for the moment, life is
OK, and I have no reason to change
it, but, saying this I am liable
to do something soon. All because
of a Bloc Party lyric. As silly as
it sounds. The lyrics is from the
song called ‘Waiting For The 7:18’

“If I could do it again, I’d make more
mistakes, I’d not be so scared of
falling. If I could do it again I’d
climb more trees, I’d pick and I’d
eat more wild, blackberries”

I don’t wanna feel like that when
I’m thirty.